[Episcopal News Service] Throughout the 2024-2025 school year, fifth-grade students at Grace Episcopal Day School in Kensington, Maryland, communicated with U.S. Army Reserve soldiers through an educational and interpersonal pen pal program. “There are these little moments where the students and the soldiers just connect so beautifully over some sort of shared interest or shared experience that’s really very special,” the Rev. Anna Broadbent, an Episcopal chaplain in the U.S. Army Reserve, told Episcopal News Service. “It feels really good to hold a letter that someone else has written just for you.” Broadbent also served as the chaplain for Grace Episcopal Day School before she deployed to Kuwait in July 2024. The school, just north of the nation’s capital in the Diocese of Washington, enrolls students in preschool through fifth grade. Around the time the new school year commenced, Broadbent connected with fifth-grade teacher Rachel Martinez and began collaborating on the pen pal program. After matching each student with a soldier volunteer based on personalities and shared interests, the eight students in Martinez’s class wrote their first letters in September. Martinez told ENS that most students’ only experience with formal letter writing was through a pen pal program with students at another private school the year before, so they practiced letter formatting and editing drafts. At first, they asked why they couldn’t just email the soldiers. Martinez explained that writing, sending and receiving letters would be a good way to practice patience and anticipation. “They wanted that instant gratification, and they were a little bit concerned about the length of time it would take. But I said, ‘You guys will soon get how cool it is to wait for a letter, then finally get it in the mail,’” Martinez said. “I think this project not only helped their letter-writing skills, but also appreciate the value of actual snail mail and how meaningful and exciting that can be.” Every time a package of letters was sent, the students would follow the tracking number together in class and see the parcel “ping pong back and forth” between cities. Broadbent said it would take two or three weeks for mail to arrive in Kuwait, but longer for mail to arrive in the United States because of additional processing in Bahrain. The pen pal program was also a geography lesson for the students, who learned about Kuwait and its hyper-arid desert climate. That’s why, they learned from putting together a Christmas care package for the soldiers, they can’t send chocolate in the mail. The soldiers were, however, able to send the students special patches featuring the U.S. flag and “GEDS” for Grace Episcopal Day School. The patches represent a bridge between the soldiers and students. For transparency and safety reasons, none of the letters were individually sealed in envelopes. Instead, Martinez and Broadbent read every letter before sending them in bulk parcels to ensure that none of the conversations were inappropriate, as the students are minors and the soldiers are in their early 20s-30s. However, Broadbent said she and Martinez didn’t need to censor any letters. Martinez also had been communicating with the students’ parents throughout the year. “For these kids and soldiers, it’s really fun for them to hear from each other, but we needed to make sure that this program was safe first,” Broadbent said. Martinez said the students were initially “weirded out” by the idea of communicating with people who are at least 10 years older than they are, but they quickly realized they shared many of the same hobbies and interests. For example, one student and soldier pair plays the same video games, and another pair shares the same interest in learning different languages. Another pair shares the same sarcastic sense of humor, and another enjoys reading the same book genres. “It’s been pleasantly surprising for everyone to see how easy it is for the pen pals to relate to each other,” Martinez said. In the first round of letters, students asked about the kind of everyday work the soldiers were doing in Kuwait. They were surprised to learn that soldiers do much more than fight in wars. Many of them, like Army Spc. Jamir Matthews, work to make equipment like radios, computers and satellites function properly. “It’s something that I was surprised to learn when I first joined the military in 2019, the kinds of jobs that are available. It’s eye-opening to see what possibilities there are and how these jobs can transfer from the military to the civilian world,” Matthews, who’s with the Army reserve unit in Baltimore, Maryland, told ENS. Matthews was pen pals with a student who stutters, a condition Matthews had when he was a child. He offered to mentor his pen pal and be a source of inspiration for him. “Oh my gosh, my kid is very kind. … He’s more of a shy kid, but he has a wonderful imagination. He’s so bright, and you can tell by his letters that he wants to do big things in the future, and I’m all for it. I see a little bit of him in me every single time I get another letter,” Matthews said. “This job can get stressful at times, being away from family and the things that I usually do when I’m home for so long. Connecting with someone through these letters has given me moments to step away from being a soldier and just being a human being.” Matthews said he and his fellow soldiers who were part of the pen pal program would sometimes sit and talk about their pen pals, and he was always excited to share what his pen pal had written to him. “It’s been an incredible experience, and I definitely would recommend it to a lot of other people because these letters – even though they come every three weeks or so – give me more hope for when I go back home and more motivation […]